Daniel H. While empathizing with the parental hopes and, especially, resourcefulness, Lythcott-Haims offers practical alternative strategies that underline the importance of allowing children to make their own mistakes and develop the resilience, fears that lead to overhelping, and inner determination necessary for success.
Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as of twentysomethings-and of special value to parents of teens-this book is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives with competence and confidence. Henry Holt Company. Pink, and employers, educators, their stressed-out parents, and on her own insights as a mother and as a student dean to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, Julie Lythcott-Haims draws on research, author of the New York Times bestsellers Drive and A Whole New MindA provocative manifesto that exposes the harms of helicopter parenting and sets forth an alternate philosophy for raising preteens and teens to self-sufficient young adulthoodIn How to Raise an Adult, on conversations with admissions officers, and society at large.
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The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
Teachers don’t just teach reading, writing, and arithmetic. Most importantly, she sets forth a plan to help parents learn to step back and embrace their children’s failures. Hard-hitting yet warm and wise, the Gift of Failure is essential reading for parents, educators, and psychologists nationwide who want to help children succeed.
New york times bestsellerin the tradition of paul tough’s how children succeed and wendy mogel’s the blessing of a Skinned Knee, this groundbreaking manifesto focuses on the critical school years when parents must learn to allow their children to experience the disappointment and frustration that occur from life’s inevitable problems so that they can grow up to be successful, resilient, and self-reliant adults.
Modern parenting is defined by an unprecedented level of overprotectiveness: parents who rush to school at the whim of a phone call to deliver forgotten assignments, who challenge teachers on report card disappointments, mastermind children’s friendships, and interfere on the playing field. They teach responsibility, organization, restraint, manners, and foresight—important life skills children carry with them long after they leave the classroom.
Providing a path toward solutions, report cards, Lahey lays out a blueprint with targeted advice for handling homework, social dynamics, and sports.
The Price of Privilege: How Parental Pressure and Material Advantage Are Creating a Generation of Disconnected and Unhappy Kids
Materialism, perfectionism, pressure to achieve, and disconnection are combining to create a perfect storm that is devastating children of privilege and their parents alike. In this eye-opening, provocative, and essential book, clinical psychologist Madeline Levine explodes one child-rearing myth after another.
HarperCollins Publishers. In this ground-breaking book on the children of affluence, a well-known clinical psychologist exposes the epidemic of emotional problems that are disabling America’s privileged youth, to normalized, thanks, in large part, intrusive parenting that stunts the crucial development of the self.
In recent years, substance abuse, loving families are experiencing epidemic rates of depression, charming, numerous studies have shown that bright, seemingly confident and socially skilled teenagers from affluent, and anxiety disorders—rates higher than in any other socioeconomic group of American adolescents.
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How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results
Simple lessons, but the results are radical. As we face an epidemic of parental anxiety, Woj is here to say: relax. Wojcicki’s methods are the opposite of helicopter parenting. Esther wojcicki—“woj” to her many friends and admirers—is famous for three things: teaching a high school class that has changed the lives of thousands of kids, inspiring Silicon Valley legends like Steve Jobs, and raising three daughters who have each become famously successful.
Change your parenting, change the world. Talk to infants as if they are adults. HarperCollins Publishers. Allow teenagers to pick projects that relate to the real world and their own passions, and let them figure out how to complete them. Above all, let your child lead. How to raise successful people offers essential lessons for raising, educating, and managing people to their highest potential.
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Teach Your Children Well: Why Values and Coping Skills Matter More Than Grades, Trophies, or "Fat Envelopes"
Parents, educators, and the media wring their hands about the escalating rates of emotional problems and lack of real engagement with learning found so frequently among America’s children and teens. Madeline levine masterfully empowers parents to nurture each child’s unique gifts and to look beyond a narrow, short-sighted definition of success and instead to keep our eyes on the real goal of parenting - building young people who will do well now and throughout adult life.
HarperCollins Publishers. Yet there are ways to reverse these disheartening trends. Until we are clearer about our core values and the parenting choices that are most likely to lead to authentic, success, externally driven, we will continue to raise exhausted, and not superficial, and emotionally impaired children who believe they are only as good as their last performance.
Confronting the real issues behind why we push some of our kids to the breaking point while dismissing the talents and interests of many others, well-being, Levine shows us how to shift our focus from the excesses of hyperparenting and the unhealthy reliance on our children for status and meaning to a parenting style that concentrates on both enabling academic success and developing a sense of purpose, and connection in our children’s lives.
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The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed
Modern parenting is defined by an unprecedented level of overprotectiveness: parents who rush to school at the whim of a phone call to deliver forgotten assignments, mastermind children’s friendships, who challenge teachers on report card disappointments, and interfere on the playing field. Most importantly, she sets forth a plan to help parents learn to step back and embrace their children’s failures.
As teacher and writer jessica lahey explains, even though these parents see themselves as being highly responsive to their children’s well being, they aren’t giving them the chance to experience failure—or the opportunity to learn to solve their own problems. Overparenting has the potential to ruin a child’s confidence and undermine their education, Lahey reminds us.
They teach responsibility, restraint, manners, organization, and foresight—important life skills children carry with them long after they leave the classroom. Providing a path toward solutions, Lahey lays out a blueprint with targeted advice for handling homework, social dynamics, report cards, and sports.
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Real American: A Memoir
The author of the new york times bestselling anti-helicopter parenting manifesto how to raise an Adult, Lythcott-Haims has written a different sort of book this time out, by whom she is beloved, but one that will nevertheless resonate with the legions of students, educators and parents to whom she is now well known, and to whom she has always provided wise and necessary counsel about how to embrace and nurture their best selves.
HarperCollins Publishers. Real american is an affecting memoir, an unforgettable cri de coeur, and a clarion call to all of us to live more wisely, generously and fully. The only child of a marriage between an african-American father and a white British mother, she shows indelibly how so-called "micro" aggressions in addition to blunt force insults can puncture a person's inner life with a thousand sharp cuts.
Engaging, heartfelt and beautifully written, Lythcott-Haims explores the American spectrum of identity with refreshing courage and compassion. Bryan stevenson, new york times bestselling author of just mercy: A Story of Justice and RedemptionA fearless memoir in which beloved and bestselling How to Raise an Adult author Julie Lythcott-Haims pulls no punches in her recollections of growing up a black woman in America.
Bringing a poetic sensibility to her prose to stunning effect, Lythcott-Haims briskly and stirringly evokes her personal battle with the low self-esteem that American racism routinely inflicts on people of color.
The Teenage Brain: A Neuroscientist's Survival Guide to Raising Adolescents and Young Adults
Adolescents may not be as resilient to the effects of drugs as we thought. As a mother, and frequent lecturer to parents and teens, clinician, teacher, researcher, she is in a unique position to explain to readers the workings of the teen brain. Recent experimental and human studies show that the occasional use of marijuana, for instance, can cause lingering memory problems even days after smoking, and that long-term use of pot impacts later adulthood IQ.
Multi-tasking causes divided attention and has been shown to reduce learning ability in the teenage brain. Jensen gathers what we’ve discovered about adolescent brain function, stress and memory, wiring, and capacity and explains the science in the contexts of everyday learning and multitasking, addiction, sleep, and decision-making.
In this groundbreaking yet accessible book, these findings also yield practical suggestions that will help adults and teenagers negotiate the mysterious world of adolescent development. Frances E. HarperCollins Publishers. A new york times BestsellerRenowned neurologist Dr.
Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood
How should i respond? • do i tell my teen daughter that I’m checking her phone? • My daughter suffers from test anxiety. What should i say? • My daughter’s friend is cutting herself. Harper Paperbacks. What can i do to help her? • where’s the line between healthy eating and having an eating disorder? • My teenage daughter wants to know why I’m against pot when it’s legal in some states.
When parents know what makes their daughter tick, they can embrace and enjoy the challenge of raising a healthy, happy young woman. Books for a better life award winner“finally, there’s some good news for puzzled parents of adolescent girls, and psychologist Lisa Damour is the bearer of that happy news.
New york times bestseller • an award-winning guide to the sometimes erratic and confusing behavior of teenage girls that explains what’s going on, prepares parents for what’s to come, and lets them know when it’s time to worry. Damour draws on decades of experience and the latest research to reveal the seven distinct—and absolutely normal—developmental transitions that turn girls into grown-ups, Contending with Adult Authority, including Parting with Childhood, Entering the Romantic World, and Caring for Herself.
Providing realistic scenarios and welcome advice on how to engage daughters in smart, Untangled gives parents a broad framework for understanding their daughters while addressing their most common questions, including • My thirteen-year-old rolls her eyes when I try to talk to her, constructive ways, and only does it more when I get angry with her about it.
All Joy and No Fun: The Paradox of Modern Parenthood
But almost none have thought to ask: what are the effects of children on their parents?In All Joy and No Fun, their jobs, their hobbies, their friendships, their habits, whether it's their marriages, award-winning journalist Jennifer Senior analyzes the many ways children reshape their parents' lives, or their internal senses of self.
Salted with insights and epigrams, the book is argued with bracing honesty and flashes of authentic wisdom…an excellent book. Andrew solomon, the new york times Book Review"A richly woven, entertaining, enlightening, wrenching and funny book. The washington postthe instant new york times bestseller that the christian Science Monitor declared "an important book, because it offers parents a common language, much the way The Feminine Mystique was, an understanding that they're not alone"Thousands of books have examined the effects of parents on their children.
Through lively and accessible storytelling, Senior follows these mothers and fathers as they wrestle with some of parenthood's deepest vexations—and luxuriate in some of its finest rewards. Meticulously researched yet imbued with emotional intelligence, All Joy and No Fun makes us reconsider some of our culture's most basic beliefs about parenthood, all while illuminating the profound ways children deepen and add purpose to our lives.
She argues that changes in the last half century have radically altered the roles of today's mothers and fathers, making their mandates at once more complex and far less clear. Recruiting from a wide variety of sources—in history, sociology, psychology, and anthropology—she dissects both the timeless strains of parenting and the ones that are brand new, philosophy, economics, and then brings her research to life in the homes of ordinary parents around the country.
Teach Your Children Well: Parenting for Authentic Success
Teach your children well is a toolbox for parents, providing information, relevant research and a series of exercises to help parents clarify a definition of success that is in line with their own values as well as their children’s interests and abilities. Teach your children well is a must-read for parents, and therapists looking for tangible tools to help kids thrive in today’s high-stakes, educators, competitive culture.
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